In a trending post, a Nigerian asked online users what to do next after he caught his girlfriend cheating, and trying everything possible to make her confess proved futile. According to the young man, he's been in a relationship with his girlfriend for the past 3 years and wondering if he should throw everything away and go ahead to break up with her or wait.
“Good day Agbŕ of all ŕgbŕ I hope this meets you well sir? Thanks for all you do for us, sincerely, I appreciate and may God reward you bountifully. Apologies for breaking your No Dm rules once again, and also for how lengthy this message might be. I just need your intervention on this as I'm about to end my relationship with my babe. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing or overreacting to the issue at hand, but I believe with your guidance, I will get it right. The issue started when she came around a few days ago and we were talking about one of your tweets she screenshots from my status, so l ask her to give me her phone so I can refresh on one or two things from the tweets, then I saw a WhatsApp message that pops in during the time she screenshots those tweets, so I ask who that was, that was when she said it was one of her male friends that tried to force kiss her(according to her) when we once had an issue. I got pissed by that cos I remember her telling me she blocked and deleted his number, I ask how come you now have his number back on your phone and saved it with a different name from the name I know? She started by saying it was when she signed in to her Google accounts that his contact was brought back by Google, so l ask was it Google that resaved his name. She tried walking out on me, so 1 told her once she steps out of my room, that will be the last day of her visit to my house. She sat down and was trying to gaslight me into believing her story, then 1 asked, was it the same Google that unblock him on your WhatsApp?
She said she doesn't know. I shall walk her out when she said I was accusing her wrongly, and whatever conclusion or decision I made will be fine by her. Later that night I called her to know if she got home safely(God no go shame us) and she said she was home and she owe me no call cos I walk her out of my house. Throughout Sunday she didn't call nor text, so I texted her, giving her an ultimatum of 72hrs from the moment she left my place, which is going to elapse today by 6 pm, to give me proper explanations as to how the contact find its way back to her phone or else I will take a bold decision and whatever comes afterward, she should take it like that. She replied with a vn saying, she doesn't need 72hrs for anything, and that if anything, I should be the one apologizing for walking her out. She added that I "police" her too much every time she posted something I will tell her to delete them and she's tired of that. So I responded by telling her to unblock her father from seeing her status, and post those snaps and pictures | complaining and see if her father will pray for her, except her father has lost his respect that is when he will fail to condemn it. Since then, she hasn't responded to the vn I sent her, tho I know she already listen to it. Since then, she hasn't responded to the n I sent her, tho I know she already listen to it. So my questions are; Am I overreacting or being toxic? Is my 72hrs ultimatum needed? Is that quite a valid reason to call off a 3yrs+ relationship? Considering her sacrifices during the 3and a half years of our relationship. Or I should just count my loss and move on?”.”.
Users changing the post added their various opinions, a few of which are highlighted below;
@Erformar
Calling off a 3+ years relationship is difficult due to the time and resources spent on building it. It's best not to get together with a woman you would need to police. If a woman blocks her parents from viewing her status, it is for good reason; she does things that no one would be proud of. If you eventually end up with such a woman, you'd find yourself in a position where you'd keep fighting her on morals, and "coming to a middle ground" would be the mainstay of the relationship. That's bad for growth. While applying love and emotions in dealing with a possible cheat, you still need to be objective and not compromise on your values. You don't need 72 hours to get a good explanation; you need it for her to give you a reason not to break up. Break up regardless. You will be fine, eventually. Better now than in the future, where you might find yourself taking care of kids who aren't yours.
@nosakhare Elvis
You already know what to do, but know this:
???She has cheated and isn't ready to own up.
???There is no respect for you. She showed this by letting you know that your ultimatum doesn't matter.
???Stop bickering with her; it makes it look like you are still holding on and not afraid to lose her.
???Don't let the so-called past sacrifices blind you from seeing the reality on the ground.
If you don't count your losses now and move on, you will always be seeking explanations.
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