????? and money play essential roles when making romantic choices. Though we may not like to accept it, we are often attracted to wealthy individuals, hoping to enjoy the benefits of their wealth. However, being offered direct payment for romance or sex would be offensive and vulgar to many.

What Women Say About Money and Love

Here are random citations (appearing mostly in Reddit) from women, on money and love.

�I met a woman who was married to a member of one of the richest families in the world. One day, on a plane journey, she sat next to a ordinary guy with a completely ordinary job, who was easy and simple going and kind. They fell in love. She left her husband, married the ordinary guy and they are still in love after many years together.�

�Nothing in life is free. Marrying him just for the money means you have been bought and sold.

I don�t mind being bought and sold; marriage itself is a transaction. I don�t expect a Mercedes, or anything of that sort. The marriage will still have issues money or no money, so why not?�

�I absolutely do not regret not marrying a rich man.�

�There�s nothing wrong with marrying a rich man. But do marry for love, honor, respect and compatibility.�

�Money won�t make your life joyful; it will make it comfortable until you want more. It will never be enough.

�I�d rather marry rich, definitely; it�s so much easier to do creative things when you already have money.

�You can buy a relationship, marriage and sex. But are those things true love?

�Money doesn�t buy love, but rather opportunities for finding love.

Relevant Studies

�Every girl would like to marry a rich husband. I did it twice. But what divides girls into two groups is this question � do you first think of money and then love, or vice versa?

Various studies indicate that money plays a important role in choosing a romantic partner. In one survey, about 56% of Americans said that they would prefer a partner who provided financial security to the feeling of being �head over heels� in love.

Similarly, in another survey, 75% of women said that they would not marry a man without a job. Ironically, 91% of single women said they would marry for love over money.  inconsistent results is that a vast majority of women put a greater value on love than money�unless financial means are below a certain threshold.

An article in Psychologia presents science-backed facts about money, love and happiness. Here are several notable ones:

A higher income is associated with less daily sadness but not more daily happiness;

Many women prefer to marry rich men and stay at home with their children;

The higher your income, the more likely you are to find love;

Arguments about money are the best indicator of divorce;

These, and other factors, indicate the complexities of love and money. While money might not be valued as highly as love, love is grounded in a living framework, and our personal thriving within a relationship often depends upon having sufficient money.

Optimal ways of combining love and money

�Use money and love people. Don�t love money and use people.

Psychology Today blogger Mark Travers suggests three science-backed ways to combine love and money:

1. Play the long game. When facing a choice between a long-term partner who has the ability to financially benefit you and a partner who is ready and willing to benefit you (through generosity, cooperation, trustworthiness, etc.), you should favor the latter, while not completely ignoring the former.

2. Love is the real investment. Joining hands with your partner financially to achieve a goal can be a smart  and ultimately rewarding decision. However, the partner should not be a means for your success, but one with whom you share joint flourishing.

3. Happiness pays dividends. It is wise to be in a relationship where both partners are, first and foremost, happy with each other and elicit positive emotions for one another since positive emotions are strongly correlated.

In a fortunate living framework, positive emotions are more likely to be generated. Extremely negative situations, such as loneliness, can also generate love.

A Jewish proverb claims: �Whenever love depends upon something [external to love], and this thing passes, love passes away too. But if love does not depend upon something like this, love will never pass away.� Indeed, we are familiar with statements like, �You don�t love me; you just love my body/money/humor/wisdom.�

These statements are voiced not only about superficial characteristics, such as beauty and money but also profound ones, like kindness, humor and wisdom. Romantic love requires the presence of many sory of properties within both partners.

�Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.� �Kinky Friedman

If two potential lovers are the same in all significant respects, except that one earns twice as the other,

Money cannot buy love, but it can make you a far more desirable partner. When one is in love, money is of less significance, and when one lacks money for basic. It is, however, easier to fall in love with a rich person, as money can generate.

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