This is a discourse of urgent global importance. So, don’t dare trivalise it with a view to waving it away. This is a matter of life and death. It has killed too many and reduced even many more to permanent residency on the bridge that connects life and death.
Nobody should descend into depression or stressed or contemplate suicide all because another human being in the name of boss pooh-poohs them. People who were created in the image and likeness of a wonderful God cannot and should not suffer inferiority complex. You are more. You are bigger.
To be sure, boss here far transcends boss. That is, boss also means benefactor, employer, leader, mentor, parent, priest, sponsor; name them. And, by calls we are discussing not just telephone and letters. We mean as well concerns, love, needs, protection, requests, welfare, etc.
When someone you trust enough to look up to, someone you really believe in, someone you had made deputy God of your life ignores you or fundamental things concerning you: there’s the tendency for your mind to run riot. Apart from wondering why, you would find yourself questioning how and what to do to circumvent. Whatever, there are some don’ts you must eschew. First: as already mentioned, never ever kill yourself over anybody or anything; no matter who, and no matter what.
No human being should have such vice-like grip on you. Second: don’t accord just anyone pride of place in your life; first study and understand who such a one is deep down. The truth is that most of the people we promote to high heavens in our lives don’t even have a life nor do they really care about us. Of course, anyone who doesn’t have a life of their own cannot treat another’s with honour and love.
Third: don’t overestimate your place in people’s lives. You save yourself 95% of the depression or heartbreak occasioned by relationship just being careful enough to internalise how much the other person cares about or respects you. Just knowing that your employer is only in a transactional relationship with you will enable you to know upfront that you are completely on your own; that the guy won’t protect you when the chips are down. It is silly to entrust your welfare in the hands of a man -or for that matter, a woman- who has always commodified you.
That longish preamble finally over, can we now get down to business? When your boss ignores your calls, don’t fret; don’t show it; don’t quit. When your boss ignores your calls, contextualise the reason. When your boss ignores your calls, work harder quietly and pray more for results.
Nothing instantly and totally rubbishes disrespect and hate the way result does. Someone who suddenly becomes too busy is communicating something. Try and decode that something. This is especially so if the person is evasive, incommunicado or feigns memory loss.
It is also possible that the person only needs a little more time or space or both. They may or may not communicate this. In that case, the onus is on the other person to exercise patience. This is where what I call relationship experience (knowledge of the person involved) comes into play.
Understand who your boss or benefactor or employer or leader or mentor or parent or priest or sponsor is. If they are sly and you lived with it all the while, please do as you always do. If they only became so, check and recheck to see if you have not yourself forced that hand directly or indirectly. Once double sure, sit yourself down and give yourself a talk about moving on even if just mentally.
I hope you understand that. It is possible, our actions or inactions could be responsible for our boss’s change of disposition towards us. If you have committed, it is not out of place for your boss to not communicate the disappointment. This can be a function of how lowly he rates you or how hurt he is.
Again, understand the matter in full and don’t rush your reaction. Betray no emotions, don’t talk and don’t swear. Pray for life or time. You shall be the better for it.
When your employer ignores your welfare, beware: there’s a problem. Either they find you unproductive and therefore undeserving or they have become big-headed and envious. That’s critical: even your priest can become envious of you. Remember Jonah who was to help Ninevites became jealously bitter when God did what He always does.
Realise that sometimes, there’s a genuine or natural reason for something untoward. It could be for your eventual good. For instance, if Haman had not targeted Mordecai, how would he (the latter) have been promoted or his people (Jews) freed? If Joseph’s brothers had not sold him into slavery, how would he have generated the fare to Egypt?
And, if Potiphar’s wife had not accused Joseph so falsely, how would he have been positioned in the prison, which seemed wrong at the time but which ultimately was where he needed to be to connect the prime ministerial dots of Egypt? The point I am labouring to make is that we must learn to trust the process by waiting cheerfully. Hate, ingratitude and even punishment can be blessings in disguise. Don’t fight them off, unnecessarily.
When your benefactor ignores your appeals. When your creditor ignores your pleas. When your employer ignores your requests. When your parent ignores your needs.
When your boss ignores your calls. When your leader ignores your sacrifices. When your sponsor ignores your efforts. When your spouse ignores your contributions.
When your captain ignores your passes. When your chief ignores your roles. When your priest ignores your commitment. When your defender ignores your qualities.
When everyone and everything goes south against you, and your patience or excellence gets tested too often, remember to never let go of yourself. When your boss ignores your calls, remember there’s the highest Boss before whom even your own boss bows and trembles. Therefore, rather than give up or deploy any of the other satanic approaches, whenever your boss ignores your calls reach out to the Boss of bosses. He is the one to turn to, 25 hours daily.
God bless Nigeria!
The best answer to agents of darkness
When Satan is desperate to measure up, he bandies either an accusation or a get-rich temptation. This is also the stratagem employed by his agents. Too many who don’t know their God have fallen for these worn-out tricks, and found themselves recruited into nonsense evil groups here and there.
The thing to do is to emulate light. Light never joins issues with darkness no matter how much tantrums the latter throws. Light shuts up darkness, dismisses and buries it instantly.
Dear believers, stop joining issues let alone fighting with people whose leader our Saviour defeated forever over 2,022 years ago. All they deserve is a command to get lost and thereafter deafening silence. Any other thing is tantamount to excellencifying nonsense!
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his is a discourse of urgent global importance. So, don’t dare trivalise it with a view to waving it away. This is a matter of life and death. It has killed too many and reduced even many more to permanent residency on the bridge that connects life and death.
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