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THE SUBTLE ART OF SMALL LIES

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The Subtle Art of Small Lies


We’ve all told them—those little untruths that slip out to spare someone’s feelings or dodge an awkward moment. “You look great!” I say to a friend who’s clearly having a rough day, or “I’m fine,” when my heart’s quietly breaking. These white lies seem harmless, like soft cushions to soften life’s sharp edges. But beneath their gentle surface, they carry a weight that can strain the bonds we cherish most.


The Comfort of Deception


I used to think white lies were a kindness, a way to protect the people I love. When my sister asked if her new haircut suited her, I smiled and nodded, even though I thought it was a bit too bold for her style. She beamed, and for a moment, I felt I’d done the right thing. But later, when she overheard a less tactful opinion, the hurt in her eyes stung me too. My lie hadn’t shielded her—it had delayed the truth and made it sharper.

I remember a time in high school when I told a friend I was “too busy” to hang out, when really, I was struggling with my own insecurities and didn’t want to burden him. He accepted it, but the distance grew. Those small lies, meant to avoid conflict, built a wall instead. It’s like adding pebbles to a stream—eventually, they block the flow. White lies, I’ve learned, aren’t always as innocent as they seem.


The Ripple Effect


Small lies have a way of snowballing. When I told my partner I loved the dinner he cooked, despite it being too salty, I thought I was being supportive. But the next time he made it, I had to force a smile again, trapped by my own omission. What started as a kindness became a quiet resentment, not toward him, but toward myself for not being honest. I realized then that white lies can erode trust, not because they’re malicious, but because they create a gap between what’s said and what’s felt.

I think of my grandmother, who always preached honesty, even when it was uncomfortable. She once told me about a time she gently told a friend their business idea needed work. The friend was upset at first, but later thanked her for the truth, which helped them pivot to something better. Her story stuck with me—honesty, even when it stings, can build stronger connections than a comforting lie.


Finding a Balance


I’m not saying every truth needs to be spoken. Sometimes, silence is kinder than a critique no one asked for. But I’ve started to question my instinct to smooth things over with a fib. When a coworker asked for feedback on a shaky presentation, I didn’t say it was “perfect.” Instead, I offered, “You had some great points—maybe tighten the opening next time.” It felt risky, but her nod of appreciation showed me that truth, delivered with care, can be a gift.

Finding this balance isn’t easy. It’s like walking a tightrope between kindness and candor. I’ve learned to ask myself: Is this lie protecting someone, or just avoiding my own discomfort? If it’s the latter, I try to choose honesty, softened with empathy. For example, when a friend asked if I liked their new painting, I said, “It’s bold! I’m curious what inspired it.” That opened a conversation, not a confrontation, and kept us connected.


Choosing Truth with Care


White lies are tempting because they’re easy, a quick fix for a moment’s tension. But they can chip away at authenticity, leaving us with relationships that feel fragile. I’m learning to embrace the discomfort of truth, not to hurt, but to honor the people I care about. It’s not about being brutal—it’s about trusting that honesty, wrapped in kindness, strengthens bonds more than a fleeting lie ever could.

If you’re like me, caught in the habit of small untruths, try pausing next time. Ask what your lie is really protecting. Maybe, like me, you’ll find that the truth, spoken gently, is the truest act of love.


Ethical Note: This piece is a personal reflection inspired by themes of honesty and relationships. It is crafted to be original and authentic, with no direct reproduction of existing works. Any resemblance to specific individuals or events is coincidental. The content aims to encourage thoughtful communication while respecting creative integrity.




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