My partner and I have been dating for about 6 months, and we had a history of falling asleep on call together even before we met (yes we are long distance). I'd estimate we'd been sleeping on call virtually every night for about 7 months at this point, and it's become a significant habit for us, something I find comfort in and rely on at the end of the day since it's peaceful and never changes.
When one of us is busy, we don't call late at night; I've never had a problem with this and have always been able to go asleep without interruption. Today, however, he was talking about reducing unused calls.What I didn't realize is that when he said "unnecessary calls," he was referring to our nighttime calls on which we fall asleep. forever. Dropping that bomb on me at random while I'm already half asleep. I dispute with him for a few moments before he hangs up, and I start hyperventilating and crying. I texted him to let him know I couldn't do it, and he said no problem and phoned me back.
We converse for a while before he compares my desire to not be alone to how his ex-wives treated him. He hung up after I told him that it was fine for us to sleep alone, and I started crying again, to the point where I couldn't breathe. I don't send him any messages.
He suggested that I go out and make new friends so that I am not always waiting for him to return and pay attention to me. I agree, and despite my introversion, I will make an effort! I appreciate everything everyone has done for me, and I truly hope things improve in the future!