I remember... after the beating I could not make it to church and my pastor called me and I opened up to him and he prayed for me... next Sunday, I put a smile on my face and went to church and my pastors message was all about me...he said why won’t your husband be beating you when you don’t submit bla bla bla... I was broken... totally broken ..
Another time I cried out to a father in the faith when I almost died the second time, he said “ faith you just have to stay there because NO MARRIAGE, NO MINISTRY...
When I finally summoned the courage to leave after TEGA’s death all hell was let loose!
I belonged to a group where I was heading a particular department,and my mentors became my tormentors ....??for no reason!
they began to raise serious dust against me..
They began to plan under ground without my knowledge to remove me from the position I was occupying..according to them they can’t have a divorced woman leading married ministers ...
I tried to complain about how I was being treated and was told if I don’t like the way things are going I should resign... right there I was forced to resign... I wept...IN CHURCH...
I was isolated all because I left an abusive marriage...
I got invited to minister in a program, handbills were already printed and when some ASSISTANT JESUS (mentors)saw the fliers they contacted the man of God and told him he can’t let me minister on his pulpit cos am a divorcée...
My host called me and said he is sorry he can’t host me because my mentors no longer approve of me.... I WEPT..
How many will I count? The pain inflicted on me just because I chose to leave an abusive marriage.
Nobody wants to stay in an abusive relationship but the pain and mockery that mentors ,fathers and church folks lay on the DIVORCED is ungodly...
but I SURVIVED....
Do not blame the late singer...the church is the reason many stay back and endure but not anymore!!
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