Taking critical steps to porn addiction recovery is not easy, yes it is not easy but possible only when awareness and information are being taken into consideration and they are;
1. Admitting You Are Addicted
A wise man said ''the truth shall set you free'', just like porn addiction admitting there is a problem or an addiction channels your body to find solutions. Just remember without admitting there is a problem one will always be trapped in the "loophole". The benefit of admitting to being addicted relieves pain and weight being felt which could even be for years.
2.Kill Your Negative Belief System
Every action starts from the mind and later the body reacts to that action. What you put in your mind determines the outcome. I have heard people say things like this to themselves like ''oh its just one last time”,” nobody cares about me”,” I am a failure”, ”I can't stop", ”I am not strong enough”,” I am not better than the others” etc.
All of the negative belief system illustrated above are ”FALSE”, you are not alone, people do care about you, you are always strong because you still get to your feet when you are being knocked down and yes you are not better than others but you can be a better version of yourself.
To provide more insight let's use this illustration:
Tim had been watching pornography for many years, he had tried severally to stop but he always had a setback so he always told himself or felt (negative belief system illustrated above) like he couldn't overcome his porn addiction until he learnt about his problem. He discovered the negative belief system he had formed of himself was the stumbling block to his success.
The truth is to get out of pornography the addict needs to rewrite the negative belief system with a positive belief system. One simple trick I find helpful is to tell oneself "every setback is a lesson". With this in mind the addict's will have some positive vibe to fight the urge and learn from their previous mistake once the temptation surfaces.
3. Seek New Knowledge
Without information those who struggle with addiction can easily feel overwhelmed and out of control. Gaining new information brings hope which nurtures determination . With that hope in place, the addict will feel motivated to conquer the habit. For example being aware of triggers can enable the addict to fight and conquer porn addiction .
Lets use this illustration;
Tim (as mentioned earlier) decided to stop watching music videos and stop going to porn sites which was a good thing but he started watching movies which featured sexual content, before he knew he was constantly thinking about sex which later triggered him to watch pornography again. He thought watching sexual scenes on TV didn't mean he was watching pornography ,he downplayed the impact it had on him as he watched sexual content.
Tim may have identified some of his triggers but not all. The one lesson Tim learnt is not to downplay the effect of watching anything sexual or that anything that would increase his urge to watch pornography. Tim also learnt as he tries to stop viewing pornography his brain was also trying to explore new avenues to fuel the urge he gets from pornography. With this he discovered he had to engage in activities that are uplifting such as sports and spending time with people that could motivate him.
4.Motivation And Determination
Without motivation determination is lost. Being motivated to fight porn addiction can bring relieve and hope to the addict which in turn brings out the determination to fight the urge. Just like one needs to bath one needs to be motivated everyday by listening to positive podcast, reading the Bible if you are a Christian or anything to fuel your determination,it could be sports or spending time with a loved one. Identifying and using one's own belief system is also another great method to stay motivated.
In all porn addiction recovery is not an over night success but with the right tools recovery is made easier. Kindly subscribe to my channel or hit the follow button to get more updates as we discuss various tools combat porn addiction. Feel free to like and express your thoughts in the comment section below as we try to develop positive minds together.
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