There are several reasons why some men do not marry or experience delays or problems in their marital
lives. Some of the problems are external, that is, they occur because of the actions of other people, but
most of them originate from the actions or inactions of the people themselves. The following are but a
few of them.
1. Fear of marriage due to previous bad experiences from others
Most men are afraid to marry because of what they have seen other men suffer in marriages.
2. Negative perceptions about women in general because of our own traditions
Some men believe the wrong saying: “fear woman and live long.”. They have grown to see all
women as evil.
3. Unemployment and/or laziness leading to financial difficulties
If you are a lazy man or you are unemployed, and you face financial problems, it will become
difficult for you to marry.
4. Family/work and personal pressures leading to inability to settle down in life.
Sometimes the pressure of work and the pressure from family members for financial or
emotional support can make it difficult for you to settle down and marry.
5. Lack of vision – lack of clear personal goals; not sure of where you are going in life.
As a potential head of a wife and the home, any man who has no vision in life may find it
difficult to find a good woman to marry.
6. Indecisiveness – confused about which woman to choose
Many men are still single, not because there are no women to marry, but because, there are
many of them and they cannot make the choice.
7. Tribal or racial differences
Sometimes a man’s parents may stop him from marrying someone who is from a different tribe
or race.
8. Disrespect or unfriendliness towards ladies
Ladies want special treatment and so any man who is serious about marriage should learn to
honour and accord every woman he meets pure respect.
9. Fond of making vain and unfulfilled promises to ladies.
If you want women to take you serious and accept your proposal, don’t lie to them; don’t brag
about yourself and never make promises you know you cannot keep.
10. Stinginess – not being generous to ladies
Women are normally not attracted to men who are stingy, so be generous if you don’t want
your marriage to be hindered.
11. Known or perceived to be taking advantage of ladies sexually
If you are known or perceived to be a womanizer or someone who seduces women, it will be
difficult for spiritually-minded women to marry you.
12. Spiritual problem: demonic attack leading to spiritual marriage; anti-marriage demonic
stronghold in the family
Some men are not married because they are under the influence of some demonic infiltration,
normally due to some family curses or some sins they themselves have committed, but have
not repented from.
PRAYER POINTS (FOR MEN)
1.I pray that I shall not be controlled by the bad marital experiences of others, in Jesus name
2.I receive marital favour from today, in Jesus name
3. I bind every demonic stronghold in my mind affecting my relationship with the opposite sex,
in Jesus name.
4. Father, favour me and give me the financial and material increase required for my marriage in
Jesus name
5. I release myself from every family, work or personal pressure that is not making me settle down
and marry; I stop all witchcraft manipulations over my life concerning my marital future.
6. I pray that my purpose and vision in life shall be clear from today. I declare that by the grace
of God, I know where I am going in life, in Jesus name.
7. I pray that I shall not be confused about who to marry. Father let your favour bring my partner
closer and let me know clearly who the person is from today, in the name of Jesus.
8. I break every stronghold of tribal discrimination in my mind from its roots now, in the name of
Jesus.
9. I free myself from any negative attitude in me that drives me away from the partner you have
prepared for me, in Jesus name.
10. Lord, help me to be truthful and honest in my dealings with people of the opposite sex from
today. Forgive me for all the deception and lies I have told about myself.
13. I shall not make sexual advances towards any woman I am not married to from today in Jesus
name.
**** This article was culled from the author’s book, ‘LESSONS & PRAYERS FOR MARITAL BREAKTHROUGH’.
Call/WhatsApp for copies: +233244223510.
Rev Alfred Osafo-Yeboah is the senior pastor and founder of the Refreshing Word Ministries (Evergreen
Church), a ministry committed to transforming people and directing them towards God’s purpose for their lives. He is a Conference Speaker, Bible Teacher and Pastor. He is also devoted to ministerial and leadership
training. He and his wife Gloria and children reside in Tamale, Ghana. Email: alfredosafo@yahoo.com
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