If you are wise as a serpent you will live peaceably with your spouse.
Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
Ecclesiastes 9:9
How can you live joyfully with your wife if you are always quarrelling with her? Perhaps you are not as wise as a serpent that is why you live in conflict for longs periods of time. Do not let the sun go down on your anger! End your quarrel by 5.30pm.
It is important to measure the level of peace you enjoy with your spouse. Some marriages are constantly in conflict. Unfortunately, some couples are terribly mismatched and so constantly live in discord. Some men cannot help but point out more and more faults in their wives. They are unable to overlook the smallest mistakes and constantly see themselves as school teachers sent to correct and train their woman. This kind of thinking leads to perpetual conflict as the spouse does not see herself as a student in a school.
Some men are in conflict with their wives because they compare her with better looking options around. They therefore manifest their discontentment by finding fault with their wives. Whatever the reason, you must see constant conflict as a dangerous sign in your life. Even when there are serious disagreements, it is possible to live peacefully with your spouse.
Another unfortunate cause of marital conflict is when the couple try to do everything together. God did not make couples into Siamese twins. Siamese twins are linked together at every moment and every second of their lives. Siamese twins are some of the most miserable beings on earth because they never have a moment of independence or privacy. Siamese twins are known to prefer death to their continued existence together.
When I got married, I wanted to do everything with my wife and I found that it created a lot of conflict. I became happier when I allowed her to be herself and I allowed myself to be myself. Try doing things as individuals, just as you did before you got married and you may have more joy and peace.
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