speaking your child’s love language
“LOL.” “Sweet!” “BFF.” Our children at times speak a language we may not, at first, fully understand. And they don’t always understand what we say. But of all the ways we misunderstand one another, perhaps the most harmful is to not properly communicate love to our children. Can you speak— and do you speak—your child’s love language?
Every child has a primary language of love, a way in which he or she understands a parent’s love best. This book will show you how to recognize and speak your child’s primary love language as well as the four other love languages that can help your child know you love him or her. As we will see, your child needs to know he is loved in order to grow into a giving,
loving, responsible adult.
The 5 Love Languages of Children will introduce you to all five love languages of children and help you determine the primary languages in which your child hears your love. Be careful to read all five chapters (2–6) that describe the love languages, as your child will benefit from all five ways of receiving love. Yes, we believe your child perceives your love best from one of the five languages, but the other four ways of showing your love also will benefit him. Besides, over time,
your child’s primary love language may change.
For these reasons, each chapter on the love languages will begin by pointing out the importance of that specific love language for your child. Even though that chapter may not describe your child’s primary love language, learn to speak that language as well. Practice all five love languages and you can be sure your child will sense your love. To help you do this,
each of these chapters ends with practical ideas for helping you speak that love language with your children.
In this book we will emphasize the importance of love in rearing your child. The ultimate goal is to rear your child (or children) to become a mature adult. All aspects of a child’s development require a foundation of love. As a book about learning to better love your child, The 5 Love Languages of Children includes suggestions throughout for good parenting.
As you work on those areas that are most important, you will find that your family relationships will be stronger and also more relaxed and enjoyable. For instance, in our discussion of iscipline (chapter 8), you will learn that two key words to keep foremost in your mind are kind and firm. Just as love covers a multitude of sins, so being kind but firm will cover a multitude of parenting challenges.
But how can you figure out your child’s love language?
Chapter 7 has many ideas. And to help you get to know your child even better—and have some fun with them along the way —look for the “Love Language Mystery Game” at the back of the book on page 218.
And now, some personal words from each of us as you begin this “language course” to improve the way you speak love to your children.
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