An internet users has asked for help from his fellow users online over a discovery he made from his wife's phone. According to the man, he found out his wife has been talking to her ex-boyfriend for over 5 years now and he knows every little detail about her.
“I recently found out that my wife secretly talks to her ex boyfriend for last 5 years or maybe more. My wife uses Whatsapp a lot to chat with everyone. And she has been hiding the conversation in the Archive folder.
I had no idea that this was going on. I only found out very recently and now I can't get it out of my mind. I know I should snop around my wife but I could help my self. Her ex boyfriend is still in love with her and she knows it and he texts her every day that he can't live without her and he is so much in love with her. In the chat, my wife doesn't respond with I love you back but she also can't stop talking to him.
I read their conversation from 2021 to the current stage. My wife tells him all the details of her life and everything that's going on with her. She send him her selfies as well. She most recently sent him 4000$ cause her ex boyfriend needed it. Though she told me she has friend who needs help so I trusted my wife that it's okay to help a friend out. But I didn't know it was her boyfriend. On her birthday, the boyfriend sent her a necklace as well and she told me it was from her college girlfriend.
She is also wearing the wearing that he gave her after we were married and she still wears it to this day. My blood boils just thinking about it that she still has the earings on from her boyfriend but she takes off the earings that I gave her”.
I love my wife so much and I don't want to hurt her or lose her trust that I went snooping in her phone. How do I have the conversation with her about all of this without creating separation between us?
Edit: Thank you so much for all the responses and suggestions. I am going to go to the lawyer and discuss it and then have a conversation with her with all the evidence. I will post more once i have more updates. Thank you all