Friends they say maybe our hope in times of need or in times of crisis. In most cases, we expect friends to instantly provide us with a helping hand when we are in need forgetting as human beings, the friend we feeling entitled to their favor might also be lacking it as well, hence it might lead to a whole lot of problems resulting in sometimes the end of the friendship journey.
In this article, a twitter user identified as @paulakingbola shares his own Story and advice individuals not to get too much entitled when they ask friends for help.
Read his thread below.
paulakingbola
“I was so broke that year I texted a friend with my last airtime asking him for N2,000. He never replied. I was sad and angry coz he was my last
hope. I thought: "Ordinary 2k, my guy no fit send! And he didn't even care to
reach out." So to me, our friendship was over.
Months later he messaged on Facebook asking for my number which I reluctantly sent. When he called, I challenged him about my text which he never got as his phone had been stolen + he was in between a lot too. Omo! His case was so bad I had to pocket mine. Anyways, we resolved. Reflecting on it later, I realised I was entitled and preemptive. Like: why was I expecting a friend to fix my problem and then write him off just like that. Now years later, I can't count how many
opportunities this same guy has pushed to me. Nasso village people for win!
This is how most of us are: we expect people to do things for us because they're in our life, because we've helped them in times past or because we believe they have enough. And when they don't/can't, we hold it against them [without imagining
their why]. That's entitlement! Nobody owes you anything. And even if they do, there's more to friendship/ relationship than what people do/don't do for you today. Be careful not to sacrifice built rapports over unaccessed help that you'd even
survive without. You have no idea what you
may be missing out later”.
This post generated a lot of comments and some users shared their opinions as well, a few are listed below;
@belluccino
“Nobody owes us anything but please do help
whenever you can. I help when I can and
when I can't, I politely tell you I can't.
Telling them you can't help at that moment
is better than ignoring the person's
message. That thing hurts!”.
@Akyneorlah •
Nice thread. True! There is pain to every disappointment, actually. But we should learn to move past pain”
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