A?s humans, we all have a natural tendency to protect ourselves from emotional harm. We build walls around ourselves and keep our vulnerabilities hidden from others. But hey, fear not, embracing vulnerability can lead to some of the most rewarding relationships you'll ever have, and who doesn't love a good reward?
You may be thinking,"vulnerability is for crybabies, and I don't want to be seen as weak". But let me tell you, vulnerability is for everyone, even the tough guys and girls. Yes, even your favorite celebrities or politicians have their fair share vulnerabilities. So, why not embrace yours and let them bring you closer to your loved ones?
Let's be real. Vulnerability can be intimidating. It's more like a trip to the dentist; necessary but unpleasant. So, to make it a little easier, here are some tips:
Start small: You don't have to share your deepest, darkest secrets right away. Start by sharing something small, like your irrational fear of heavy built guys like the likes of "the Rock" or your love for Too Sweet Anan. Starting with your least will be like dipping your toes in the vulnerability pool, except without the risk of getting a toe fungus. Cool right?
Be Yourself: Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Embrace your true identity and share your genuine thoughts and feelings with your partner. Your partner will appreciate your honesty and might even find your divulgences cute. My best of emotional support to the guy whose lady has a crush on Too Sweet. He might be proud tho, you never know till you try.
Listen attentively and validate:On the other hand, if you happen to be the listener, when your partner tells you of their vulnerabilities, you listen and support. Tell them it's okay and they are just fine the way they are. If they happen to cry, offer them tissues. That is how it's done in our part of the world, at least I can say for Ghana. Sigh!
Use homour: Your vulnerability sessions don't have to be too serious like a military training session. Lighten the mood with some jokes here and there to create that comfort and space. You never know, it might even turn into a stand-up comedy session and yet achieve the same goal.
In conclusion, Vulnerability is not for crybabies, it is the secret ingredient to spice up, strengthen and turns a dull, unpromising relationship into an intimate and meaningful one. So take a deep breath, embrace yourself, let your guard down a bit, share your squirks and don't forget to have a good laugh. You might be surprised at what you find at the other side of Vulnerability.
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