My boyfriend has a problem with my stature and it’s so frustrating with the pressure he gives me each day.I am thick and a bit taller than my boyfriend. He is slim but not that skinny.
We started talking in August and dated in November last year.
The pressure started in June.
As in he wants me to lose weight.
I questioned him and he said he used to know people who were very heavy that have lost their lives and when I give birth I will gain more and a whole lot. He also said he loves and don’t want to lose me. I was like I’m not heavy like the picturecomeyou’ve shown me. So where from all this.

I am very active. I work out and others. I was not consistent for a while tho.
So I told him that I’ll work on it.
Everyday, the first thing he asks when he calls is , did you exercise today? and stuff. We sometimes argue. He sometimes asks how many kg have you lost and so on. He told me that I’m not doing an intensive exercise and that I should do this that and others.
I told him that loosing weight does not take a month so he should cool down with the pressure.
He makes me feel insecure about my weight.
Aside that when ever I try to tell him how I feel about the relationship he makes it seem that I’m stressing him. I don’t see him often. This year I’ve seen him 5times.3-4 months no meet up. We talk every day so I sometimes overlook it because  I don’t want to argue with him.
I told him sometime that I feel lonely and vented to him about how I felt.
He told me that after we talking in the evening and I can call one of my friends to talk to if I feel lonely, we both have our lives to live and for the second time he said anything can happen in a relationship, that he doesn’t want pressure as he told me earlier, we date to know if we can marry whoever we are in the relationship with. I told him that we date with the hope of marrying the person we are with, we don’t date for dating sake. I told him since we want this, let’s try to work on it. He  said he is confused , his past relationship they kept telling him he had no time for them others, he doesn’t know if he is even ready for a relationship and that he is struggling to make ends meet at home not that he parties with friends and stuff he is busy trying to make ends meet , no one is helping out and it’s like I’m the one always complaining about stuff. It was a day to my birthday and he made me feel so said with all he said. I literally cried and he told me that I am blackmailing him with my tears. I apologized for stressing him out and comforted myself to sleep.

I’m not bad looking at all. I don’t ask for a pin in a relationship cos I don’t want to burden anyone. I am working and I can sort myself out with the little I have. I am mostly indoors. I’m a church,work kinda person. I go out once in a blue moon.
You know you get people asking you out and other. If I am dating someone I can’t look elsewhere. 1 man is enough for me but I feel they take me for granted. I give 110% but that is not valued.

Ff as he was talking about the weight stuff I told him that you knew how I looked before you asked be out a day to my birthday last year so why now. What has changed? Every conversation there is a question on have you skipped today or exercised today? It’s so frustrating.
A friend suggested a medication for me to help me lose weight which is almost 700-800gh. Luckily I got discount because I got them during when Black Friday sales so I got it almost 600gh with delivery. I have to get more when I finish with what I bought.
Before that I join a workout group. They work out around my neighborhood on Saturdays. I joined the evening session too aside the Saturday’s workout. But I don’t go often because I feel exhausted when I get home from work but I try to join them regardless.
He said it is not enough.
He told me last month or two that in the next 6-7 months I would have lost weight. I asked him why that and he said he is just saying.

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