CHILDREN NEED AUTHORITATIVE, NOT AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS.
There are four parenting styles:
1. PERMISSIVE: This is a style where the parent allows the child to get away with misbehaviour, claiming that he/she will outgrow that bad behaviour. This is where the parent lavishes foolish love on the child.
2. NEGLECT: This is where parents do not care what the children eat or drink. The parents do not care who their friends are. Parents do not care when the child goes out and when the child comes home. The parents do not care where the child sleeps.
Parents do not care what they wear. Children can dress anyhow without any parental correction. By this, you are bringing up prostitutes and criminals.
3. AUTHORITARIAN: This is the parenting style that is unbending, inflexible, unforgiving, and callous towards the children. “Just do what I say without question,” is the attitude. Children have no right to ask questions. Parents can make mistakes, but children cannot. They are physically and emotionally abused. There is no respect for the children because they are children. This is terrible!
4. AUTHORITATIVE: This is God’s parenting style. It is a blend of love and the rule of law. This parent has a wealth of information and rich personal experience which they are eager to share with their child. Parents allow questions, mistakes, and errors in judgment, seeing them as wonderful opportunities to teach and train the children.
John Locke said: “It’s one thing to show a child that he is in error; it is quite another to put him in possession of the truth.” See Ephesians 6:1-4. KJV
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Teach your children these Five important Principles:
1. THE PRINCIPLE OF TRUE WEALTH:
Teach them to respect money but not to live for money. Teach them, especially your teenage daughter, not to accept financial gifts from people. Teach them against debt and borrowing.
2. THE PRINCIPLE OF GRATITUDE:
A child who grows in a family where Mom and Dad do not show appreciation to God and to each other will grow to be ungrateful to God and to the parents. Such a child will grow to be delinquent, selfish and mean. Such children grow to be bad parents and spouses.
3. THE PRINCIPLE OF RESPONSIBILITY:
Teach your children how to work to earn money and how to be accountable to anything entrusted to them. You must teach them to be responsible to God, to the Church, to their Parents, to adults, to their Siblings, and to the Community.
4. THE PRINCIPLE OF GENEROSITY:
Teach your child to learn to share and not to be selfish and egocentric. Teach them not to be possessive. Blessing is in sharing.
CHILDREN NEED SPIRITUAL PARENTS. Prayerless parents are powerless parents. Be a parent of prayer.
Amen.
God bless you as you raise citizens of Heaven in your home.
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