According to the wtiters, you have to regain your dignity you once lost. You might prefer to justify your reactions than to be the one who takes the higher road. First of all, everyone lies. And we all do it for several reasons  depending on the circumstance.

And in a perfect world, you and your partner would be super honest, respectful with each other about everything. You wouldn�t tell half-truths or even withhold some pertinent information your spouse should know about.

Having said that, no lie is justifiable even when someone claims to do so because love. Because love without the truth is hypocrisy. Lies, when found out, and depending on their magnitude,

And while most people lie, no matter their gender, for some reason, men generally struggle with this behaviour the most in marriages and dating relationships.

Let�s explore some of the reasons why.

He feels ashamed

He feels sorrowful over a shameful thing he has done, and is overwhelmed by embarrassment.

So when they have broken that because of something they did or a secret they�ve kept that�s found out, they feel ashamed. So they lie.

They lie because they believe another lie � in their own minds: that it�s better not to hurt you with the truth, than to be honest about the hurt they have caused you.

He doesn�t want to hurt or disappoint you

As mentioned, a man�s instinct is to protect his wife at all costs, even from himself. If he knows that his actions will harm you emotionally in some way. This will help them see that you won�t hate them if they do something wrong, and want to be transparent with you.

We hope this makes sense!

Let�s say he was honest with you about something he did. Your reaction to that could determine if he�ll be transparent in the future or not, even though it�s still his choice to lie. To break this barrier, you also have to do your part in being approachable and not throw toys when you hear the truth. Can you handle the truth?

He�s a narcissist

He sees himself as the best of just about everything and has to lie to keep up his delusions of grandeur. He has also learnt from childhood that lying is a way to get what you want even at the expense of the relationship.

He�s hiding his insecurities and failures

Most men, when they leave home for work, hope to God that no-one finds out about failures in some aspects of their lives. When you can understand this struggle of your husband, it might help you understand why he sometimes feels the need to lie.

Please understand, the above reasons are no justification for lying, nor are we fostering such behaviour, especially when they are destructive lies that are affecting you or your relationship badly.

This is simply to help you get into his mind and understand that generally, he doesn�t want to let you down.
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In other cases lies are told to avoid conflict or tension, or to avoid hurt feelings. Men also lie to advance themselves, enhance their image, or even gain power.

However, lying always has a purpose, and is often resulting from a need to protect something. What is crucial to consider is the motivation behind the lie, and what in fact the individual is trying to protect

By understanding your spouse�s struggles, you can help him understand that even if he fails, you will still love and admire him. This will help him be transparent, .

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